If you’re new to the gym scene, approaching a girl at the gym can feel like an almost terrifying prospect. Though you may see fit and healthy individuals every time you go, it can still feel like an alien environment for anyone that isn’t used to being surrounded by so many people with such visible and admirable fitness goals. And given that it’s likely these people are there for the same reasons you are – namely, to get healthier and fitter – there isn’t exactly a ton of other opportunities to make connections with them. That said, it doesn’t mean that meeting potential friends or partners at the gym is impossible. In fact, if you handle it correctly, it could even be easy! Here are some things you need to know about how to approach a girl at the gym.
How To Approach A Girl At The Gym?
1. Observe
When you’re first starting to talk to a woman, it’s important to observe how she’s feeling at that moment. If she’s in a good mood, you have a better chance of getting her attention. If you approach her when she’s feeling down and/or stressed out, you’re going to come off as too much, making things more difficult for yourself. If you approach her when she’s clearly in a bad mood and you go in for a pickup line or a corny joke, she’s going to be less willing to give you a chance. You also want to be careful about how much you’re observing because you don’t want to make her feel like you’re creepy or weird.
2. Show Interest In Something Other Than Her Body
Once you’ve gotten her attention, you want to show her that you’re not just interested in her body. In fact, you might want to steer clear of talking about her looks altogether. She might be self-conscious about her body, or even if she isn’t, you don’t want to come off as creepy or too forward. So you might want to show interest in something other than her body, like her workout routine, the music she might be listening to, or something she’s eating or drinking. Once you’ve gotten her to open up, you’ll have a better chance of getting her attention, and she’ll be more receptive to your advances.
3. Be Confident (And Use Your Body)
Confidence is attractive no matter what you’re doing, and it goes a long way toward making you seem like a more approachable person in general. If you want to come off as confident, you want to be relaxed, and you want to be moving your body in a way that indicates you’re comfortable with yourself. If you’re standing too stiffly or are holding yourself in a way that indicates you’re nervous or uncomfortable, the woman you’re interested in isn’t going to be able to read you as well as she would if you were more relaxed. You also want to make sure to use your body in a way that makes you look bigger and more in charge. This means making eye contact and getting her attention with your body while also keeping your distance so you don’t come off as creepy.
4. Start With A Casual Conversation
Once you’ve gotten her attention and she’s opened up to you a little bit, you can start moving into casual conversation. You want to find something you have in common with her, even if it’s something small like the type of workout you’re doing or the type of music you like. Once you’ve found something you have in common, open her up with a question. Ask her how long she’s been working out, how she gets inspired to work out, or what she likes about the type of workout she’s doing. You can also ask her about her playlist if she’s listening to music. If you are really concerned about coming off as a creep, it is always advisable to start the conversation with a neutral comment. You can ask her if this gym is the closest one to her house, or if she likes the type of music they play while they work out. It’s not creepy, and it gives you a nice segue into a more relaxed conversation.
5. Some Light Flirting
If the conversation has been going well, you can try flirting with her a little bit. Make eye contact and try a smile. If she smiles back, you can respond with a wink or a flirtatious smirk. You can ask if she’s on break or if she’s taking a break from work, or you can try to get her number or ask her out on a date. Just remember, if you want to keep the conversation going, don’t come off as too forward. You want to make it seem like you’re just trying to be friendly and flirtatious at the same time. You also want to be careful not to come off as creepy or inappropriate. You also don’t want to be too sexual or aggressive with your flirting. You want to keep the conversation more lighthearted and friendly than it is sexualized.
6. Ask For Her Number/Email At The End
Once the conversation is winding down, you can ask for her number or email. This lets her know that you’d like to see her again, and it gives you something to work with in the future. If you really wanted to be extra, you can also ask her out on a date right then and there. You don’t have to wait for her to give you her number, but waiting can make you seem less desperate and more confident in yourself. If you want to come off as confident and possessive, you can also wait until the end of the conversation to ask for her number. You can say something like, “It was really nice talking to you,” and then ask for her number so you can see her again. Be careful though, you don’t want to wait too long or she might think you’re not interested anymore.
Why Is The Gym Such A Great Place To Meet Girls?
- The gym is a place to build a healthy body and lifestyle. It’s also an ideal place to meet women because it allows women to feel comfortable expressing their desires to be fit and healthy.
- In fact, women are more likely than men to say that being fit or healthy is a deal breaker when it comes to dating someone.
- A gym is a place where women can express and explore their desires around fitness and wellness without feeling like they are judged for prioritizing their health.
- In fact, many women who use the gym report feeling more comfortable in the gym than in other exercise settings because they feel like their needs are better understood and appreciated at the gym.
- This makes the gym a great place to meet women who want to focus on wellness and health and who want to meet men who feel the same way.
Tips For Succeeding During Your First Introductions
- Avoid being too sexual or aggressive. Remember, you want to be pursued as a friend, not a potential sex partner.
- Don’t get discouraged if she doesn’t give you her number or agree to meet with you right away. Instead, ask her if she would be willing to talk on the phone with you and set up a time to do so.
- If she does agree to meet with you, focus on getting to know her as a person rather than trying to get her into bed. Getting to know her better will help you determine if she is a good fit for you as a partner.
- Be confident. When you approach a group of people, walk with confidence and a smile.
- Ask questions. When you are talking to a group of people, ask everyone in the group questions. This shows that you are interested in getting to know everyone and not just one person in particular.
- Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. If you make a joke, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself if it isn’t funny or if it doesn’t get the response you were hoping for. –
- Pay attention to your body language and facial expressions. Your body language is like your tone of voice — it communicates how you feel about the conversation and whether or not you’re interested in someone else’s opinion or perspective on an issue.
- If she says no, don’t take it personally because she may just be busy at work or have other plans for that evening already made up.
Conclusion
There’s a lot of advice out there about how to approach women, but most of it is centered around bars, nightclubs, and social gatherings. While this advice can be applied to the gym, it doesn’t take into account the general differences between the two. When you’re out at a bar or a club, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or like you’re being too forward when you want to approach a woman. At the gym, though, you have a more controlled environment in which to approach women. It’s an environment where you’re more likely to feel comfortable, and you’re less likely to come across as too forward.
